me: if a man ever calls me a bitch he will not live 2 see another day bitch!!
j. cole, in my texts: hey u know u my main bitch right? i love you so much… also you gon let me come thru 2nite or nah ?
me:
me: i just think that girls today are so sensitive like men dont mean anything when they say “bitch” like they’re just trying to be cute like i think we as women should stop being so sensitive bc it’s killing all the fun and good in the world
People acting like Becky is a racial slur saying “what would happen if we made fun of your names” like you haven’t been making fun of women named Shaniqua for years. Like you don’t already come up with names like Purpledrankeisha or Friedchickeneisha or Welfareisha to ridicule us.
But that’s the thing, isn’t it? Sometimes, white people are jerks and make fun of black names. Sometimes, black people are jerks and make fun of white names. How on earth is saying that it’s wrong when white people do it a way of defending black people who do the same thing? “He started it?” Are we all back in grade school now?
The difference is that white people aren’t oppressed when I say ‘Becky’. No white girl at school has her name called out for attendance and is made fun of for it. But when a white person does it, I am made fun of and I am less likely to get a nob, to be taken seriously. I am nothing but a joke with my black name
That is completely wrong, and I’m sorry you have to go through it. You shouldn’t have to. People, unfortunately, can be idiots. But I maintain. It is wrong to do it to minorities. It is also wrong to punch minorities in the face. Does that mean that it is suddenly right to punch white people in the face? It may be less systematic when done do whites, it may have less historical precedence, but it is still, in the end, wrong.
Tell off the people who do that to you or others. Make sure everyone knows what idiotic jerks they are, and explain to them and their supporters just how hurtful and wrong their actions are. But insulting other random white girls is not a way of making /anything/ right.
You know everything marginalized communities do does not need to be right. Our words and actions in regards to people who actively oppress and benefit from our oppression do not always need to further some kind of goal especially because even if we never did this oppression would still be there.
This rhetoric that our behaviors always have to be pushing forward is ridiculous. We are human beings and we have a right to our pettiness when it isn’t hurting people.
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No, actually, you don’t have a right to pettiness. No one does. How do you think oppression started in the first place? It was one group of people saying “I’m entitled to do something that is obviously immoral because reasons”, which is exactly what you are saying now. There is no justification for pettiness and bullying, no matter what you’ve been through.
Being oppressed does not give you a free ride to act immorally and put down other people. If anything, it should give you more incentive to do only things that are right and good: that way you prove that your oppressors are wrong. If someone is putting you down, that doesn’t give you an excuse to stoop to their level.
There is no environment in which pettiness and immorality is acceptable. There is no environment in which it is okay to make fun of someone for their name or the color of their skin. I don’t care who you are or what you’ve been through. It’s wrong. Period.
Anyway y’all keep being petty if you want. I know I am.
